Tuesday, February 19, 2008
Our moving time last December was pretty challenging, hard on everyone. You know, even good changes are sometimes really stressful. It seemed most days that no one had anything positive to say. No matter what the subject, my kids could turn it around and make it negative. I was starting to feel like a garbage dump for everyone's negativity.
So I started asking them a question at supper. "What is the best thing that happened to you today?" I was desperate to find a way to introduce some kind of positive speech to the family!
The first day they really had a hard time thinking of anything good. It took a few days of prompting, but almost overnight I noticed a change in attitude. Even if the day was rough, we were having uplifting conversation at supper. "Nothing" is not an acceptable answer! Sometimes if it's been a really bad or uneventful day, "eating supper" is the best thing!
Although "best things" started as a temporary fix, it has quickly become a tradition. If I forget, Billy or one of the kids remembers. It's become one of my favorite parts of the day. It's so wonderful to have a time when we remember the good parts of our day and share them with each other. So if you are tired of too much negative speech in your home, I'd encourage you to ask your family about the best thing that happened to them that day. It worked for us!